My baby only wants milk, HELP!

My baby only wants milk! Help!

My oldest daughter, now 3, was on solid foods and loving it by the time she was 6 1/2 months old. And she’s a good eater. She doesn’t demand sugar too much, she eats veggies and she loves steak as much as or more than her daddy (that’s me). So I really didn’t get what the big deal was about parents who had a problem getting their kids to eat but I was happy that she was fine.

Then our second daughter arrived and by the end of 6 months she refused to put anything in her mouth other than milk. The real big downsides of this are:

1. The baby wakes up more often during the night for feeding (3-5 times is not unusual).

2. You constantly worry about proper development, are they getting enough nutrition?

3. Washing bottles and preparing baby formula constantly isn’t really what I’d call a hobby I enjoy.

But by the time our daughter was 11 months old, a pediatrician we consulted with said that she was out the bottom on the baby development chart (below the 5th percentile in height and weight) and at this point I really started worrying. As an aside, my wife is petite, so I always knew there was the possibility of our daughters being petite as well, but that didn’t stop me from worrying. Anyways, the pediatrician gave us various techniques to essentially force our daughter to eat. None of them worked and all of them made me feel a little guilty because she was obviously beyond miserable.

We then left Mexico to visit some family in LA and I went and saw the doctor who had taken care of me when I was a kid. She told me all about her youngest son who had been a “milk baby” and the great frustration she had to go through as well as the worries on development because just milk isn’t enough by itself. So she started researching and testing various concoctions until she found one that worked great for her kid and after several months he went up to the 100th percentile on his growth chart and has stayed there for the last 3 years. Her theory was that it wasn’t really the taste as much as the texture of the food that the kids had a problem with.

Now as a note, we already complemented the breastfeeding with barley formula (http://youtu.be/feQ6FcZRgFg) because we don’t like using the powdered baby formula products. So now we were looking adding another supplemental/complementary milk formula to this. I rounded up the products and started making this every morning right when she wanted her “wake-up” bottle and at first she started drinking it and then spit it out. I kept trying until I finally found that with the banana out of the mix, she drank it no problem.

I’ve been giving this to her now for almost 5 months and she has now gone up to the 68th percentile on the height chart so I am relieved and happy. The nightly awakenings are still exhausting but my wife and I deal with it as a team so it’s bearable.

The formula she gave us was: (NOTE: CHECK WITH YOUR OWN DOCTOR FOR THE EXACT QUANTITIES AND INGREDIENTS FOR YOUR KID!!!)

12 ounces of organic vitamin d milk, or whatever milk your baby uses.

1 1/2 Tablespoons of vanilla flavored egg protein powder (I use 1/3 scoop of the protein powder I bought which means basically 8 grams of protein. You have to figure out the proportion based off the protein powder you use and how much your baby should be getting. I know there are dozens of others out there such as whey proteins, but I haven’t checked into any of those yet)

1 tablespoon of Kidsafe Supreme Superfood. This is basically powderized vegetables, fruits and other good stuff with all the amino acids, vitamins, iron, etc… intact. Pretty expensive but worth it.

1 teaspoon of organic flax seed oil

1/2 teaspoon blackstrap molasses for all the B-complex vitamins. This is a strong flavored ingredient, the doctor recommended a full teaspoon but until I brought it down to a 1/2 teaspoon or about 14 drops, my daughter wouldn’t drink it.

Fill up a 9 ounce bottle. If your baby won’t drink the milk because it is slightly chilly, then warm the milk before you blend it. But I found my daughter preferred it slightly cool. I then usually have about 3-4 ounces leftover and I drink that and then head out with them for daycare.

Hope that helps.

Best,

T.C.F.

 

 

 

To Breastfeed or Not to Breastfeed? Is that really a public question?

 

To breastfeed or not to breastfeed. That seems to be the question… Well not really, but there are so many sites and blogs that put so much stress on HAVING TO BREASTFEED, that I think the most important point about it gets lost in all the noise which is ensuring your child is WELL FED and WELL NOURISHED. Not always the same thing.

I do agree with people lambasting certain companies who deliberately try and replace breastfeeding with their formulas.

But I also have a personal beef with people who make such a big deal out of it that it gets to the point of discriminating against women who don’t or can’t breastfeed.

Why am I beefed?

I will never forget how hard my wife took it in the hospital when she couldn’t breastfeed our daughter. She was crushed and kept saying what a “bad mother” she was. And I was like WHAT????? My wife is an AWESOME mother. She took perfect care of herself and the baby during the entire pregnancy, did everything to have everything perfect for when the baby arrived, endured with total courage and no complaint a c-section which is a MAJOR surgical procedure. And suddenly she is a “bad mother” because breastmilk was not forthcoming.

It took me a bit to calm her down and assure her that SHE WAS NOT A BAD MOTHER. We had a beautiful and amazing miracle of a daughter that she had brought into this world despite all the pains, etc…

Yet from all the “social pressure” that was how she felt…”like a bad mother.”

Finally after a few days breastmilk came. Not a lot. Not enough to feed the baby properly. But anytime she could, she valiently fed our daughter trying all sorts of foodthings and massage things then finally pumps, etc… to try and provide our daughter with sufficient food from breastmilk.

After a few weeks, the milk supply cut out and we had to find an alternate solution as opposed to letting our daughter starve. Because in the end what is the important thing? That you breastfeed your child? Or that your child is actually well-nourished with sufficient food and protein to grow properly?

I totally agree with powder formulas being garbage for the most part. That’s why we found an alternate food supply that worked well that wasn’t a powdered formula. I don’t have to name names on the powders, you probably know what I am talking about.

But I am sorry to all naysayers out there, but I reserve the right to politely disagree with you on the matter of mothers who can’t breastfeed simply “not trying hard enough.”

I think that is just judgmental when you have no clue of the circumstances of those mothers. And I think some of the breastfeeding fanatics should take it down a notch or two. Do I think women should breastfeed if they have an option to not to? Of course I do. That seems to be what nature intended after all.

But if that isn’t providing enough nourishment for the child then I think the parents should definitely speak to their pediatrician to figure out what to do to ensure their child is well nourished so that the child can be healthy and not starving.

I apologize if I ruffle any feathers, but I think it is inconsiderate of the men and women who climb up on a soapbox and basically state that “if you can’t or don’t breastfeed your child, then you are a bad mother and you are not trying hard enough.”

I think the real point is for parents to ensure their children are well fed and nourished. Breastfeeding? Amen. Can’t breastfeed? Don’t let your kid starve because you are “doing the right thing.”

I also realize that having a well-nourished child is just a dream for parents in some parts of the world whether they breastfeed or not, and I feel worst of all for people in that situation.

But I don’t think they are bad parents or say things to make them feel that way, I think they just need help and instead of standing on a soapbox about it, make a donation to a charity that DOES something about it.

Darius

Aka The Clueless Father

June 10th, 2010