Our youngest daughter was a “milk baby” who would only drink milk or protein drinks. While this proved annoying at first, it took a turn for being truly dangerous to her health. Between the age of 1 and 2 she dropped from the 75th percentile to negative 5 percentile, she was losing weight and had diarrhea that went on for months. She stopped being active, stopped talking and had constant fevers. After blood tests she was diagnosed with severe anemia and we were told to be prepared for her having to be hospitalized. And we were devastated.

We reached out to friends who pointed us in the direction of this blog: http://thefullmontessori.wordpress.co…

This soup formula has been a blessing. On the first day she drank 4 bottles almost back to back. In less than two weeks her blood counts returned to normal and in three weeks she gained 4 pounds. She started talking, has been more active than ever at home and in pre-school and in general been much happier. We are so thankful and while I am trying to get the time to make a more professional video with Pilar, the woman who runs The Full Montessori blog, I wanted to share this with you.

Why and How to Have a Baby Shower

 

Having just finished our new daughter’s baby shower and cleaned up all the large cake stains smeared all over the place by small children I figured I’d end the day talking about Why and How to Have a Baby Shower.

In the US baby showers tend to be a small gathering of close female friends who bring gifts to the mother to be to congratulate her and help with things that are needed.

Having now been to a number of baby showers in Mexico I’ve seen that it’s totally different here and I’m assuming in other parts of the world.

If you think about it, a baby shower is the exact opposite of a funeral. A funeral solemnizes death, while a baby shower celebrates life. What’s my point? Every child should have one. It’s a welcoming party that will let the child know that they are welcome and have friends and family standing by to provide them with the love and support they will need to survive during their formative years.

And no one brings gifts to a baptism.

But skipping the philosophical side of things there are three main reasons to have a baby shower listed in order of priority:

1. Finances

2. Friends and Family

3. Fun

1. Finances

It’s a pretty tough world and the economics aren’t that great. Nowadays having a baby can be an amazing blessing that comes attached with the fear of being able to support a family with a baby in it, especially if both parents are already working to make ends meet.

With a baby shower, the expecting couple can be given a really good head start by friends and family because make no mistake about it: babies are beautiful, joyful, exhausting, exhilarating and dozens of other emotions but they are also expensive. I don’t care what your income bracket is, having a child is a major drain that gets placed on whatever income a family has.

Baby showers can help ease the impact of financial burden by a large group of friends and family getting many of the necessities that new parents might spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars buying that they really don’t have.

2. Friends and Family:

Unless you are living under a stone at the back of a cave in a forgotten off shore island, then you know that social interaction is slowly being replaced by social networking.

Call me sentimental if you will, but in these times when everyone seems to find excuses to not get together with family unless there is a funeral, you need every excuse you can find to bring everyone together. And the celebration and welcoming of a new member of the “clan” is about the best one you could hope to have.

3. Fun:

In Mexico, any excuse to party and have fun is a good one, ESPECIALLY with friends and family. Baby showers here involve games, dancing, music, good food and anything else except alcohol. There are plenty of occasions to get drunk on, getting drunk at a baby shower is an action that even the truly tasteless would scorn with well measured disdain.

In the rest of the article I’ll cover each of these categories and most importantly how they affect what type of baby shower to have and how to prepare for it.

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Diaper Rash Remedies

Diaper Rashes. All babies get them. Some get them worse than others. So here are a couple remedies to help you get rid of your baby’s rash as fast as possible.

We use “desetin” which has zinc oxide as the active ingredient. Buy that and a box of corn starch, mix them into a sticky creamcheese like paste and coat the entire rash in that. With the new diaper open pour in a bunch more corn starch and close it up. Check every hour. As soon as you notice she pees or poops, pull it off and clean her up. Leave her naked for an hour if you can and repeat.

Then at night add a couple ounces of white vinegar to the bath full of water. DO NOT USE too much or it will make the baby cry. Let them soak their butt in it for 15 minutes or so. For a full baby bath we only add about one or two ounces, you’ll know if you put too much because your baby will call you a jerk as soon as their tush touches the water.

Clean and dry baby.

Then use desetin and corn starch paste again with another layer of corn starch after applied. Change diaper about half way through night. Should be gone in two days maybe three no matter how bad the rash is. Good luck!

How to Tickle a Baby…

How to Tickle a Baby…

A necessary skill, the sound effects do take some serious practice.

What is involved fatherhood?

What is involved fatherhood?

This is an older post from another blog which I am deleting to make room for another one.
What is involved fatherhood?

Okay. So this morning at 12am 3am and 5am my hopes that the long sleepless nights with our daughter were over got thoroughly smashed against the rocks of reality.

Finally as I woke up to go to work after 3 hours of sleep for the 4th night in the last week grim thoughts began to flood my mind.

One particular thought was that I understand why involved fatherhood is such a hot topic and why it is so easy for fathers not to be involved when already faced with the stresses of providing for the family.

There is a point when the mind can say “This is too much. Uncle…”

And it is so tempting to want to say “You know what, this is mom’s problem.”

But if you take a breath you know that she put in just as rough a workday as you. It’s time to undo that top button on your 501s and look down your pants to check and see if you are a man or a Ken doll.

You know how all those books and movies talk about “defining moments”? This is definitely one of them. Can you weather the storm and carry on as a heavily involved father? Or will you give up on the concept and leap into the existence of a mediocre father? Or worse?

It comes down to the essence of what involved fatherhood is and why we do it.

Do you know what the essential difference between involved fatherhood and what most of society has come to expect?

It’s like the difference between actually climbing Mount Everest or just sponsoring the team that does it.

The Value of a Parent’s Time

dad, can i have 75pesos

i stumbled upon this on my friend’s facebook page…

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: ‘Daddy, may I ask you a question?’
DAD: ‘Yeah sure, what is it?’ replied the man.
SON: ‘Daddy, how much do you make an hour?’
DAD: ‘That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?’ the man said angrily.
SON: ‘I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?’
DAD: ‘If you must know, I make 150 pesos an hour.’
SON: ‘Oh,’ the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: ‘Daddy, may I please borrow 75 pesos?’

The father was furious, ‘If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don’t work hard everyday for such childish frivolity’s.’

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money? After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that 75 pesos and he really didn’t ask for money very often.

The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door. ‘Are you asleep, son?’ He asked. ‘No daddy, I’m awake,’ replied the boy. ‘I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier’ said the man. ‘It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the 75 pesos you asked for.’ The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ‘Oh, thank you daddy!’ he yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father. ‘Why do you want more money if you already have some?’ the father grumbled. ‘Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,’ the little boy replied.

‘Daddy, I have 150 pesos now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.’

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

Do remember to share that 150 pesos worth of your time with someone you love. If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours… But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

Tell her she’s beautiful…constantly.

 

Husbands/Dads to be should make sure they are remembering a very key aspect of pregnancy: Constantly reminding mom of how beautiful she is while she is pregnant. Her self-consciousness will be eating her alive and nothing says “You ARE beautiful” like roses, chocolates and yes…poems.

Telling them this and reminding them of how beautiful they are is not just a necessity, it’s a moral imperative!

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