EVERYTHING stated on this site is simply advice. I am not a doctor. I am not an obstetrician. I am not a pediatrician. Heck I am not even an electrician. I’m just a guy who wants to be a great father and help others the best way that I know how.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS talk to your medical professional about your child because every child is unique. Things that I have found to work with my family and friends who I have helped might not work for yours. So having a qualified medical professional that you trust consulting with you is important.
A lot of men worry about being a good parent. Why? Because it’s one area in our lives where we as men try to be honest with ourselves. Some of us don’t like the way we were raised so don’t want our kid to go through the same. Others felt they had the greatest childhood imaginable and want to be able to give their children that type of experience.
It mostly comes down to being involved as a parent right from the start.
The difference between the “uninvolved father” and the “involved father” is pretty much the same difference between being a person who sponsors a team that climbs to the summit of Mount Everest and the person who actually does the climb.
No amount of imagined involvement will ever be the equivalent of actually experiencing such an accomplishment. And being a parent who successfully raises a child is perhaps one of the greatest accomplishments that life holds to be experienced.
Most people complaining about the lack of involved fathers usually forget three key things:
1. WE ALL WANT TO BE GREAT AT WHATEVER WE CHOOSE TO DO.
2. MOST OF US ARE WILLING TO WORK HARD TO ATTAIN THAT EXCELLENCE.
3. ALMOST EVERY MAN INSTINCTIVELY WANTS TO BE AN EXCELLENT FATHER.
So what’s the problem?
To be great at something you have to learn the skills involved in doing it.
Nobody wants to look like an idiot, and pride can be so important to some that they would rather avoid doing a vital task than looking inept or incompetent at it. As cliche as it is, let’s face it, some men would rather be hopelessly lost then pull over and ask for directions.
But everyone needs some direction at least once in a while, and when the roadmap of life is going to change as radically as it does when a child arrives, you better damn well know where you are going.
Clueless Father is designed to rapidly show the crucial parenting skills that every parent needs to know right from the start. If you spend a couple hours now learning about being a parent, I promise you that you are going to save yourself and your child a lot of pain and frustration later.
I am always learning, so please feel free to send me a message on things I missed, tips, tricks and other things that should be shared. If you feel I did something wrong, let me know! I try to be humble enough to be willing to learn from my mistakes.
Finally, I want to give a big thanks here to Erika. She not only is one of our best friends, but she kindly spent a few weeks with my wife and I teaching us all the basic techniques required of a parent in today’s day and age. Her kindness allowed my wife and I to have some certainty and stop panicking so we could actually enjoy becoming parents.
It is my hope that through these videos I can help other parents do the same.
All the best,
aka The Clueless Father